By Rahul Krishnan Co-founder of Bold Care
Life hasn’t been a party lately.
COVID-19 has disrupted our routines, thrown the economy into a free fall and left us stunned. We’ve been confined to our homes. Isolation is difficult. No more commuting to work and catching up on gossip, no more smoke breaks and team dinners, no more trips, parties or just ranting about your boss over a couple of beers. Every integral part of our lives, small or large, is currently on hold.
This lockdown also means that many couples are spending unusually large amounts of time together in the confined spaces of their home. The fact that this togetherness is open-ended, with no definite end date, is also playing on couples’ minds.
However, there is a silver lining.
We reached out (over the phone, of course) to Dr AsmitaGholap to get her views on this. DrGholap is a Couples Therapy and Infertility Specialist, and a Medical Advisor at Bold Care, a men’s sexual health venture. “A lockdown like the one we’re in right now is a little scary, but it can be great for relationships and marriages!” she tells us. “It can increase communication and bring you closer as a couple. The best part? You both can work on improving your sex life.”
There are a lot of things you can work on to reconnect with your partner emotionally and physically.
Communicate:
We know that the bedrock of any healthy relationship is communication. It is necessary during normal times, and more so during the era of coronavirus.
“Spending time together is the best thing you can do and we know, spending time together is all that you do. But there’s a difference between spending quality time together and just sitting together on the couch, aimlessly browsing on your smartphone.”, DrGholap says.
Your partner is bound to have a lot of negative thoughts about being in the lockdown – they might be worried about the economy, their job and so on. Do your best to be their support system. You can do this by hearing each other out and helping them find solutions.
Boost Your Sexual Intimacy:
In a relationship, sex shouldn’t be negotiable. It’s as important as exercise, eating right, or sleeping. But often, sexual intimacy is the first thing that is ignored in relationships. Most times, this happens involuntarily. With both partners working in high-stress environments for long hours, once they’re back home, they just want to wind down and relax.
Sex is extremely healthy. It lowers stress and risk of heart disease. It also builds confidence and is great for intimacy. Couples who have sex often are more in sync with each other.
“Use this lockdown period to rediscover how beautiful sex can be. When it comes to sex, the possibilities are limitless” said Dr.Gholap, “Being intimate with your partner releases feel-good hormones in your brain. This can vastly improve your mood and wellbeing. You can also use this time to explore each other’s kinks and fantasies. Being open about these with your partner can bring you closer.”
“Try having sex every day. It will be predictable in the beginning and maybe not as exciting. But as the days pass, you will find yourselves mixing things up. The excitement of not knowing what is coming next is pretty great too!”
Exercise Together
Staying healthy while you’re isolated at home is perhaps the most important thing. Physical fitness can benefit your own health and your relationship as well.
“After doing a physical challenge or activity together, couples are more satisfied with their relationships and more romantically inclined to their partner. When you exercise, your brain releases endorphins – the happy hormone.” says Dr.Gholap, “Exercising with your partner can intensify endorphins released, mainly because it creates a sense of non-verbal mimicry, which allows you to fall into each other’s pace and find a rhythm during reps. becoming more in sync with your partner deepens the emotional connection.”
Focus on exercises that engage your pelvic floor muscles. These muscles help you improve your performance in the bedroom and strengthening these muscles can increase your ability to achieve pleasurable sensations.
“At Bold Care, we believe that keeping yourself fit and exercising regularly is the key to a great sex life. Exercise routines, in addition to lifestyle and diet changes, can definitely boost your performance in bed” adds Dr.Gholap.
The Bottom Line
This lockdown could very well be the much-needed break that couples need to reconnect with each other and work on their sex lives. Yes, it can be scary and stressful but it is also a chance to be together without the distractions of everyday life.
Stay home, stay safe and be bold!
Corporate Comm India (CCI Newswire)
